How I Found Success, Balance and Joy as a Single Mompreneur
written by Jessica Mauger
The Beginning Of My Story
My start in being a social media influencer and entrepreneur might seem a little bit darker than most.
Let me start by first saying that I didn’t see my life at 28 being a single mom and running 2 online businesses, but let me rewind!
During high school I was in a nearly 7 year relationship. We dated into my first two years of college. My dream was to major in music as a vocal education major. The guy I was dating at the time was very controlling; being young and naive I didn’t go to the dream college in Pennsylvania, I stayed close to home and attended a local private college. Within the first few weeks, I knew I had made the wrong decision, and by the second semester, I transferred to a local community college.
I changed my major twice there and then in 2011 I made the decision to leave the cheating, controlling boyfriend, and attend the University of Buffalo about an hour away from home. I changed my major one more time, added a minor, had killer roommates, and was living the college life of my dreams. I had fun but I studied hard. I got by with mostly B’s and I was okay with that as most of my life I felt that I had to work 100 times as hard to earn A’s as my friends did. My last semester in college I noticed that most of my courses were based off exams and I was finding it more and more difficult to pass exams. I stayed up all night studying and could barely get C’s. Most of my life I relied on projects and coursework to get A’s and now I was convinced I’d fail out.
I was tested for ADHD and the psychologist was amazed that I had even made it that far through school.
I’m driven and relentless as all get up. And I suppose a little stubborn.
Needless to say, I graduated with a Bachelors in Political Science, an Associates in Business, and a minor in English.
Corporate Life Just Wasn’t For Me
I moved back home, applied for my first entry level corporate job, and got it! I was excited for all about a week and then BOOM! “This is what I’m going to be doing the rest of my life.” The dark clouds rolled in, my anxiety worsened, and to cope I began partying 4 nights a week easily.
Wine and illegal drug use became my one way of coping with the way my life had gone. I moved in with my boyfriend who would party with me and all was right in the world.
In 2012, at only 110 pounds, living off barely any sleep, and working out excessively to stay skinny, my body turned on itself.
I quit partying and thought that would resolve my symptoms. Wrong. It took the doctors six months, dozens of tests, and thousands of dollars, that I didn’t have because I had blown it all, later, to determine I had an auto-immune disease.
This is when my entire world changed and I began to see everything differently.
Shifting My Perspective and My Path
I joined a local gym with my best friend, I was no longer good enough for my partying friends, and I found a new community that revolved around support, accountability, love, and self-empowerment. I learned how to eat right, how to properly treat my body, and the importance of working out for your body not to punish it.
It was then that I realized I had found my calling. I wanted to help other women, like me, realize that their past does not have to define their future, and that their current circumstances does not define who they are.
What does any of this have to do with being a single mom?
Well, I’m that person who joined a network marketing company centered around health and fitness and saw success. I shared my story, my daily ups and downs, and connected with women who shared the same struggles as I did. I truly believe that life happens for us and not to us. I don’t have any regrets about my past because it’s lead me to some of the most incredible individuals in my entire life.
The Surprise That Changed My Life
One year into building my network marketing business, my boyfriend and I discovered we had a little surprise on the way. We of course did not plan her and I thought for sure this would ruin any plans I had of ever retiring from my corporate job.
A little back story on my boyfriend and daughter’s father… He received his third DWI a few months after I became a health and fitness coach. He wasn’t supportive right out of the gate and we fought a lot. We had just moved into our first home together and I wanted to make it work. The fighting continued as I no longer agreed with a lot of his actions and saw my life going in a completely different direction.
We broke up, he moved into his moms, and three months later came back home sober. He stayed sober for a little over two years, and during that time we conceived my daughter.
Back to my surprise pregnancy. Of course, I now have a lot of guilt over not being excited the moment the doctor walked back in with that positive pregnancy test.
I don’t have a cute story to share about how I told her father, and the first person I told was my best friend as I drove around town for 2 hours sobbing wondering how I was going to raise a child. It seems a little dramatic now, but at the time, it totally was.
I continued to share my journey; working almost 90 hours a week, 7 days a week between a full time job, two part time jobs, and building my side hustle. Within 2 months of having my daughter, I walked into my corporate job and handed in my resignation. A year later, I quit my last part time job and became a full time virtual health and fitness coach.
I was able to travel the world, I competed in three bikini competitions, and was in hands down, the best shape of my life.
I worked a ton, though, and I had a lot of guilt that I often put work before my family. But again, no regrets because it’s lead me to exactly where I am today.
Hiring A Life Coach Changed My Life
Six months after my daughter was born, her father began drinking again and things started to go downhill in our relationship. Instead of working on us, I poured my heart into my business so that when I could support myself alone, I could leave.
This past October I hired a life coach; a creative and conscious mentor. Right before hiring her I sobbed on the couch for a straight week wondering where my life was going. I made an amazing income as a coach, but it wasn’t growing as fast as I wanted it to and I knew the time was drawing nearer that I needed to part ways with my daughters father and my boyfriend of six years.
Within two months of working with her, I lessened my workload and almost doubled my income. I learned how to hustle less and earn more. It was like magic. Absolute magic.
In January, I officially ended my relationship, in Mach I took my daughter and I on a 5 week vacation to Florida to visit my family, and by April I came home to an empty house and officially started living life as a single mom.
While in Florida, I was on a call with my mentor and I realized that I wanted to help entrepreneurs the way she helped me.
Was I CRAZY? My inner mean girl was saying, “Jes, you just finally got a handle on running one online business with a two year old, what makes you think you can run two?”
Again, relentless and stubborn over here.
Starting A Second Business, All While Keeping the Joy
So, I got to work, and set a launch date for my first 6-week mentorship group. This is solely my own, and I focus and I focus on helping other moms or busy women like me find more joy, balance, and abundance in their lives. By launch day, my course had sold out and I was officially a mompreneur times two … with a two year old!
I now work only on weekdays, and I focus on doing what feels good and aligned to me. I do something fun with my daughter for her at least once a week, and every day that it’s nice out, we get out of the house. I don’t usually work on weekends anymore and I’ve spent more time with my family the last 6 months than I have in the last four years.
I make an effort every day to grow as a mom, and give myself grace when I feel like I’m doing it all wrong. Some days during the week, work does have to come first because providing for my daughter will always be my number one priority. I’ve learned that everything I’m feeling is normal, that I’m not doing it wrong, and if I think I am, that probably means I’m doing it right. I’ve learned the importance of setting my pride aside and asking for help, leaning on other moms and mompreneurs who get it, and taking the time to pour into myself every day.
This journey has not been perfect, I’m still learning and my daughter teaches me most of the time. Everyday I wake up grateful, I count my blessings, and I’m thankful that I get to pay it forward to other women who feel the way I felt.
Women like Caitlin, and the movement she is creating with her blog, is exactly why I love to do what I do and why I will always live a purpose filled life. God gave us our gifts and our trials for a reason. Use them and share them boldly!
Jessica Mauger is a virtual health and fitness coach as well as a mentor and success coach for entrepreneurs. If you are a girl boss who is tired of the hustle and struggling to find balance, Jessica’s “Next Level Magic” course is exactly what you need in your life! Click here to get more info about her course. You can also follow Jess on Instagram @jeslynfitness.