How To Find Balance With the Transition to Working Mom
written by Jenn Dobert
Motherhood can feel like an overwhelming mix of gratitude, stress and waves of anxiety at the same time. I get it.
In an instant your entire life transforms from picking out a welcome home outfit to actually becoming someone’s very own mama!
When the job you have requires you to be separated from your child those emotions may heighten.
Having the responsibility of a full time job outside of the home plus doing your part in taking care of the home and being a mother is a lot of work to say the least.
If you have a partner then add that in too.
Let’s take a breath and acknowledge that’s a lot going on mama. The you before maternity leave is going to be different from the you after maternity leave and that’s okay.
Finding your new normal
Life is not worse, it’s just different. Making the transition from working woman to working mom will include finding a balance.
Now, it’s important to clarify that balance does not always have to mean equal distribution of weight. Unfortunately, this is the misconception that many working moms feel.
For me, balance means creating time in my life for doing the things I need to do and want to do in a way that serves me and my family without the stress, overwhelm and mental load.
I learned how to find a new normal on a time crunch and I would love to share it with you.
If that sounds good to you, then keep reading I have a few simple strategies to help you get there.
3 Balancing strategies for working moms
1. Self care
Do you think about pampering activities when the topic of self care comes up?
Moms, especially the ones that work outside of the home, typically give the excuse of not having enough time for self care. There’s this thought that it requires money, vacations and days off work.
Well, don’t worry it’s not always about a spa day. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it’s important to understand that there’s more to self care for moms.
Making the transition into being a working mom was a stressful time for me. I was this interesting combination of happy to be back at work, yet also dealing with fear of missing out with waves of separation anxiety. If proper self care and the remaining tips helped me, then I’m sure they will help you too.
Here are some free ways I’ve found that you can practice self care for a few minutes every day. Use this to start easing your transition into being a working mama.
- Forgiveness — use this powerful tool to free yourself from mistakes and hurt from others
- Community – find a mom community with similar interests and lifestyle
- Taking space – create some alone time to do what you want
- Meditation – clear your mind to start fresh and relieve stress
- Healthy choices – clean eating and exercise boost happy hormones
- Don’t feel guilty — if you like to work and you enjoy your time away that’s okay
2. Time management
Like I said, it can be overwhelming dealing with life changing events in such a short time frame. Some moms only get 6 short weeks of maternity leave. Hello, postpartum hormones are still running wild!
As the responsibilities, various emotions and pressure builds you will need a healthy method to clear it, put it into perspective and take action.
This, my lovely strong mama friend, is finding balance through time management. It’s crucial for working moms. Do the work up front and save time in the long run to do what you want.
Okay, so to start creating a wellness driven life it’s good practice to do the following weekly.
First, do a brain dump to start the process of alleviating the mental load by getting that on-going to do list out of your head and written down.
Second, prioritize that list so you put things into perspective based on your values and level of importance.
Third, put it on the calendar to actually get it done.
If you need help getting started, click here for a free worksheet to help guide you through this process in just 10 minutes.
Don’t forget to include self care on your calendar!
You can use your calendar as a reference point when creating your daily routines. Routines will also provide a sense of something constant in the midst of so much change.
Putting things into perspective like this will also help you to say no and set boundaries with your time which will do wonders for your mental health.
Even though we’re talking about planning the future here, I want you to understand that you will 100% have off days and that’s okay. This is where grace and self care will pull you through and have your back mama.
Bonus tip : Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks! It may be temporary or for the long haul. Is there a task you do that someone else can do so you can be less stressed?
3. Do something familiar
What is something positive that you loved doing before you were a mom? I encourage you to find a way to keep that up.
For me, it’s martial arts. I can’t practice it to the same daily extent, but I make sure to work it into my schedule a few times per week. Afterwards I feel more like myself and I’m ready to be a better mama.
I’m confident that if you give yourself permission to enjoy the familiar parts of your life that don’t require you to wear your mama cape that you will handle change with a more accepting mindset.
Are you balanced?
Figuring out how to balance a career, home and motherhood is a constant transition. I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed with it.
Remember to allow grace and extra self care to show up and help on those tougher days. In the meantime, be sure to take care of yourself regularly, manage your precious time wisely and create familiar routines.
What about you?
I hope you found some stress relief and comfort here in knowing that you are not alone. Leave a comment and share your favorite thing to do before you were a mom. Then share how you plan to keep it going
I’m a wife, mother and full-time healthcare professional. I fell in love with being a mama. However, being a busy working mom can add an extra pathway to emotional, physical and intellectual stress. I serve to decrease that stress in the every day life of working moms through simple health, wellness and time management strategies. As a result they can honor their values, organize their thoughts, and free up time to spend it how they want to. All while staying healthy without the guilt! Every mama deserves that.
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