Shawnie's Postpartum Story

With my daughter, my postpartum journey was much better. Having an idea of what to expect, and a little more confidence than before, I was able to better prepare myself for what was to come... And now that she is here I am embracing every moment, the good and the ugly, (none of it is bad.)

Shawnie Bacenet

Two Different Postpartum Journeys

My postpartum journey with each of my babies was quite different. As a first time mom with my son, I prepared for labor and birth as best I could, mentally, physically, and emotionally. I did not put much thought into preparing for postpartum, aside from taking a class on breastfeeding. Much of my first postpartum is a blur, and between learning how to ‘mom’, learning how to breastfeed, and changing diapers, little time was left for me to eat, sleep, and focus on my own well-being. I often wondered if I was doing ‘this’ right, or doing ‘that’ right. I questioned whether I was enough for my son and if the things we were experiencing were “normal”. I was mentally, physically and emotionally drained, and as much as I loved the newborn bliss, I felt unprepared.

With my daughter, my postpartum journey was much better. Having an idea of what to expect, and a little more confidence than before, I was able to better prepare myself for what was to come. I did not take any classes this time, though I did spend more time reading and researching postpartum specifically. I created affirmations to read during the highs and lows of each day. I prepared nourishing meals for my freezer that way I would not have to worry about what I was eating in the days and weeks to follow. I set up what my husband refers to as my “nest” for the long days and nights I spend nursing, complete with water, snacks, breast pads, a book, etc. I could not wait for my littlest love to come Earth-side. And now that she is here I am embracing every moment, the good and the ugly, (none of it is bad.)

Preparedness & Expectations

For me, the two biggest factors that influenced my postpartum journey with each of my babies are preparedness and expectations. Preparing my mind and my heart as best I could, both mentally and emotionally, made a big difference in how I felt and how I mothered as a result. Having realistic expectations is a significant aspect of my postpartum as well. More so with my daughter I did all I could to slow down and allow my body the time it needed/needs, (as I am still in the midst of postpartum,) to recover. I am not concerned with stepping on the scale, (not that I ever have been, to be honest.)

I am giving myself grace and am so in awe of what the female body is capable of. At 5 weeks postpartum I am carrying a few extra pounds and I am a-okay with that. My body grew life, and is currently sustaining that very life by producing breastmilk to feed both my baby and my toddler. That in itself is incredible. I look forward to the days when I can return to the gym again, but until then I am too busy loving on myself and my babies.

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